Making It Personal Is Slowing You Down

Last month I had such a special birthday celebration with my wife and two dear childhood friends on Siesta Key, Florida. As we drank our white wine spritzers to make the most of a cloudy day, we found ourselves talking about Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements. As you do, right? “Don’t Take Anything Personally” is one that was resonating the most for us.

We reminded ourselves for the 142nd time that other people’s reactions and judgements are ll about their emotions, experiences, and mind chatter. It has nothing to do with us.

As women entrepreneurs, we’re responsible to keep doing our purposeful work and letting go of our need to be liked be everyone. Practice. Repeat.

I’m proposing that incorporate this practice even earlier. Along with not taking other’s reactions personally, the place to practice is not making your actions personal. In other words, we make up shitty stories about the reactions we’ll receive before we even take action. This often stops us from taking action at all.

Last week in a workshop, the conversation was around asking clients to pay overdue invoices. Participants were sharing how difficult it was to reach out and ask clients to pay their overdue invoices. Their minds were running stories such as:

  • They’ll think I’m a bitch.
  • They’ll think I’m only in it for the money.
  • They’ll think I’m not very polite.

Let’s check this out. Are these facts or interpretations?

They’re all totally interpretation, coming from our underlying need to be liked by everyone. We make it personal.

Ok, cool. Since it’s all interpretation, and we’re making it all up, why not make up the following?

  • They’ll think I value my time and services.
  • They’ll think I run my business well.
  • They’ll think I’m holding them capable and accountable.
  • It’s not about me. It’s about the facts.

What would it be like to take your actions from this new mindset?

When I don’t make it personal, I notice I save time, stop avoiding, and have more energy to move right into the next action. I’m lit up and effective. I want the same for you and your business.

Join me in raising your white wine spritzer and remembering for the 143rd time:

We’re responsible to keep doing our purposeful work and letting go of our need to be liked by everyone. Practice. Repeat.

If you want to let go of your need to be liked, join me for the next session of Your Bold Badass Business eCourse which begins May 17th.

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  • Estella - July 18, 2017 reply

    Fidinng this post solves a problem for me. Thanks!

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